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What I Experienced ...

Every trip seems to bring with it a realization of new experiences or reinforcement of existing beliefs.  These are some of those ...

   The First Tip:  Too much?  Too Little?

Within 20 minutes after landing, I gained entry to Vietnam through the Immigration Entry Station at Hanoi's Noibai International Airport.  Having been in transit for 20-plus hours, I was anxious to find my driver to Hanoi.  Having never been to North Vietnam before, I had no idea where Hanoi was in relation to Hanoi's Noibai International Airport or how long it would take to travel between these two points.  I had reserved the services of a driver before leaving the U.S. to ensure an uneventful arrival to my hotel after the lengthy trip.  

I recognized my driver because he was holding a piece of cardboard to which had been affixed a white piece of paper on which my first and last names were spelled in bold black letters.  He wore no uniform; just plain street clothes.  When I approached the driver -- relieved that he was there to meet me -- he did not seem to believe that I was his passenger.  He did not speak a single (emphasis on the word "single") word of English and politely, but resolutely, showed no interest in so doing.  From his facial expressions and hand movements, he acted like he thought he would be picking up two people;  one for both my first and last names - at least that is what I understood from our non-verbal  communication.  I got out my passport.  I don't know if the driver knew what it was, but I showed him my picture and pointed to my first and last names, which he compared with the letters written on his sign.  The passport did the trick.  I was guided out of the terminal and motioned to wait on the sidewalk next to the curb while he retrieved the car.  He disappeared into the asphalt parking lot across the street.  Within five minutes, he drove up to me in an unmarked, private car and we drove off - to where I was not certain until we reached our destination 40-plus minutes later.  

Not detoured  by his inability to speak a single English word to me (and, not apologetic for my inability to speak a single Vietnamese word to him), after about 10 minutes into the long car ride to Hanoi, I tried to start up a conversation.  I inquired of the driver what the name of the  river was we were passing.  He did not say a word, but looked at me in his rear view mirror, shaking his head from left to right and briefly holding up his hands making the universal gesture to communicate "I don't understand."  He was a nice enough driver.  We just had no common verbal language between us and few universal gestures and expressions.  

When we eventually arrived at the hotel, I stepped out of the car.  He retrieved my luggage from the trunk of his car.  He then turned to get back into his car to leave.  However, before he got into his car, I handed him a U.S. $5.00 bill as a tip for his services.  (Why U.S. $5.00?  The ride had cost me U.S. $50.00, so I figured a 10 percent tip or U.S. $5.00 would be appropriate.)  Again, although we could not speak a single word to one another, he communicated to me that he understood and appreciated the gratitude expressed by my tip:  His eyes got as big as a quarter, each.  It was at that moment that I learned that a U.S. $5.00 bill was a lot of money in Vietnam (circa 2008) and, perhaps, too much of tip for a 40-minute ride from the airport to Hanoi.  There always is that first lucky (or unlucky)  service provider on any trip to whom you give too much or too little tip-wise.  My driver on this ride was that service provider for this trip.